Are You A Mean Girl??

Are you a mean girl and a bully to yourself, mom devotional, mom encouragement, overwhelmed moms

I heard God speak to me this morning and He asked,

Are YOU a Mean Girl??

I see the shock on your face. I hear the gasp as your heart skips a beat and your mind races.  You don’t know whether to scream out, “NO, Lord! You know that I’m NOT!” or burst out crying at the horrific thought that I would even think of such a question.

Are you a mean girl and a bully to yourself, mom devotional, mom encouragement, overwhelmed moms


You think of how you love others, how you have the gift of encouraging others, you look at so many girls and women and you don’t really care about their looks or attributes, you see through the outside into the heart of a person.


Sure, you mull over in your mind, there are times when you have been judgmental, angry or impatient with someone, but not like a mean girl. You definitely aren’t a BULLY.  You aren’t shallow; you aren’t wanting or even trying to be popular or worldly.  You wouldn’t brush someone off or attempt to hurt someone to get ahead.


Do you want to know why I asked you if you are a mean girl?

Are you ready to hear and to know what I see??

I agree with you. Overall, you are a kind person.  You do love people and see them, for the most part, how I have gifted them, that they make mistakes out of their pains.  Overall, you are patient and you see the depth of a person and the value they have.

Are you a mean girl and a bully to yourself, mom devotional, mom encouragement, overwhelmed momsBut this one thing I notice. There is a girl you are not so kind to – there is a girl you are actually rather mean to. The things you think about her, your opinions, your harshness and callous heart toward her are pretty awful.


Again you scramble, trying to think of anyone from your life, past or present, in which this person may be hidden, maybe deep down in the dark corner of your heart or mind.


Just stop and take a deep breath.

I will reveal to you who she is, it’s why I’m talking to you now.

You see – it’s you.  You are being a mean girl to yourself! Are you surprised?  Do you think it is okay to be so hard on yourself?

Are you a mean girl and a bully to yourself, mom devotional, mom encouragement, overwhelmed moms

Can you imagine how it breaks my heart to see the lack of forgiveness, grace and mercy you are willing to extend to yourself?  You may think you can insult yourself, but really you insult me.

You are MY creation. You are MY child, my daughter.  I don’t want anyone talking about you like that, not even you, in fact ESPECIALLY not YOU!  I formed you when you were in your mother’s womb.  I knew all of your days long before they were even fashioned.  I knew your joys, sorrows, struggles and successes and I loved you.  I still love you, every mistake and shortcoming I see I am reminded that you were made from dust.  You are greater than the sum of all of your mistakes, you are a dear treasure to me and the destiny I have in you and for you are beyond what you can take in.

Stop Being a Mean Girl!

Are you a mean girl and a bully to yourself, mom devotional, mom encouragement, overwhelmed momsYou make a difference in the smallest things you do, you make the world I created more beautiful just by being you.  I have watched as you have damaged yourself with your unkind thoughts and sometimes abusive actions.  I am asking you to stop.  Open your eyes and see yourself with the same grace, love, kindness and forgiveness that you offer your friends.


As you begin to love yourself you will begin to see a change, it will take time but you will be changed and represent my glory in a much bigger way.  Take every thought into captivity and anything that doesn’t line up with what I have to say about you needs to be thrown out.  You will still get Holy Spirit insight of your errors and you will face your flaws with Me. Repent and forgive yourself and I will show you the way to making changes.


No longer will a mistake set you back days or weeks because of self-loathing.  The devil has been using this trick too long with you and it is time for it to stop being a mean girl to yourself.  You were a child and walked in childish ways and now I invite you to walk with Me as a mature woman in Christ.  I believe in you!  I love you!  I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and to make a future for you – join me and do it in love.  Love Me, love your neighbor and please, do Me a favor and LOVE YOURSELF!


-Your Heavenly Father (Abba)


This was not written by me. The author of this beautiful note is unknown by me and I hope to someday find this person. In the meantime, this needs to be shared because so many of us are so guilty of this and we need to stop.

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  1. Mommy Sigrid on February 18, 2019 at 7:38 am

    I know I am not mean. And I know what mean is like because I know a lot of people who are like that. I am actually pretty kind and nice. But I cannot say the same when I am provoked.

  2. David Elliott on February 17, 2019 at 9:51 am

    I think we all view ourselves in a negative light a little bit except for maybe the creepy narcissist. But that’s another thing altogether. It’s walking that balance between humility and self-doubt we need to deal with.

  3. Heidi on February 16, 2019 at 12:06 am

    You’re right. We (especially women) are way too hard on ourselves. We’d never expect a much of others as we do of ourselves. We need to be careful of the words we say and think about ourselves just as much as we do about others.

  4. Dani Flanders on February 15, 2019 at 4:24 pm

    This would be such a great post to share with the young girls that I teach dance to. They can be so hard on themselves sometimes and I hate to hear how they talk badly about themselves! I’m always trying to find ways to raise their confidence and help them see their unique and amazing qualities!

  5. mjmamaa on February 15, 2019 at 12:14 pm

    beautiful post. I enjoyed reading it. I have worked on this for years. I keep in mind that what i give to myself and other I will receive once again. If its good I will receive good. I try to teach my girls the same thing.

  6. Sarah Bailey on February 15, 2019 at 11:17 am

    I think we can all have a bit of mean in us, it’s not something we even know sometimes, but we can all definitely work on it.

  7. What Corinne Did on February 15, 2019 at 11:06 am

    I think i might have not been the kindest as a teenager. sometimes i was just petty and sneaky for no reason. But you grow out of it and realize you have all to win being kind to everyone

  8. Laurie Gannon on February 15, 2019 at 9:30 am

    Sometimes I can be mean to myself. Sometimes I have been mean to others. I would say that I am not intentional when it comes to being mean. There are times when tempers flare during a situation and things are said that aren’t kind. Sometimes it sucks being human. 🙂

  9. Chelle Dizon on February 15, 2019 at 7:47 am

    I always make sure to apply the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I’m not perfect I know sometimes I am being mean and feel sorry afterwards. I agree to always be kind.

  10. Cristina Petrini on February 15, 2019 at 1:40 am

    I believe that for all we are committed to being better people, to do our best to be anything but the bottom of the bottom we all fall at least once.

  11. Cris on February 14, 2019 at 11:38 pm

    I have to admit, that sometimes I might be a mean girl. But I try to compensate by being kind more than usual 🙂

  12. Heather on February 14, 2019 at 9:23 pm

    I’m sure we’ve all been mean at one point or another. We just need to remember that everyone is going through something.

  13. Princess Quinn on February 14, 2019 at 8:38 pm

    Being mean has a case to case basis I guess. Trying to be nice all the time is a little challenging. However, nobody wants a mean girl.

  14. Stephanie | Adventures in Aussieland on February 14, 2019 at 8:35 pm

    I can admit that I haven’t always been the kindest person. When life gets stressful, I can lash out. There are times I catch myself thinking mean thoughts and then quickly feel guilty that thought even crossed my mind. I know I can do better and I always try to.

  15. Tara Pittman on February 14, 2019 at 7:56 pm

    I can see myself being mean to me. It is time for me to stay being kind to myself.

  16. Amber Myers on February 14, 2019 at 5:16 pm

    I have seen many mean girls. I’ve had people leave mean comments on my blog constantly, and I just remind myself that they must be unhappy. I try to always be kind.

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