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20 Ways To Bless Your Spouse

Do you need to reignite the spark in your marriage? Here are 20 ways you can simply and effectively bring back the love you once had.

20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriageHave you been married for just a few months, a few years or alot of years??

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married, the key to a strong marriage is being intentional towards each other in our marriages to notice each other and connect on a regular basis.

Your marriage is the most important relationship you have here on earth with a human being. Your relationship with your spouse should be more important to you than any other relationship you have….even more important than the relationship with your children!!



Love Your Spouse to Bless Your Children

You see, loving your spouse and working on the relationship to make it solid, loving and unconditional will in turn bless the relationship you have with your children and will give your children a stronger sense of security and love in their own lives.

I encourage you to make the relationship with your husband or wife the focus of your everyday life. Everyday won’t be great. I can guarantee that. But we can add in little moments of blessings for each other to reconnect and maintain a love that will never be broken.

20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage

Love is an Act not a Feeling

You can not like your spouse some days. That’s just a part of life. We need to understand that not liking our spouse doesn’t mean we don’t love them. We just don’t like something they did or said, but we still LOVE them no matter what. Love isn’t a feeling. It was in the beginning of your relationship, but over time love becomes more of an act than a feeling and that’s what keeps a marriage strong.

20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage

Here are 20 ways you can Bless Your Spouse.

Plan to do one a week or at least one a month.

Be consistent with the intention to bless your spouse with the comfort and knowledge of knowing how much you love them through these acts of love.


  1. Research a subject or hobby your spouse enjoys and talk with him/her about it showing interest.
  2. Find an old photo of you together and reminisce with your spouse. Tell your spouse how you love him/her even more today.
  3. Make your spouse breakfast in bed.
  4. Leave a love note in dry erase marker on the bathroom mirror.
  5. Hide notes around the house where you know your spouse might randomly discover them.
    20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage
  6. Ask your spouse to make a list of 3-5 things he/she would like you to do and intentional do those things.
  7. Write a love letter to your spouse and snail mail it to them.
  8. Plan a day hike together and have a picnic lunch together.
  9. Leave post it notes with characteristics you love about your spouse around the house.
  10. Send a random text telling your spouse how much you love them.
    20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage
  11. Make your spouse’s favorite meal and serve it in a special way.
  12. Draw a bubble bath for your spouse and make his/her favorite tea or coffee to have with it.
  13. Hug your spouse and tell him/her how much you appreciate them.
  14. Date night idea – Take a class together.
    20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage
  15. Plan a vacation together.
  16. Date night idea – put the kids to bed early, make popcorn, and watch a movie together.
  17. Pray together thanking God for your spouse and name one specific thing you are thankful for.
  18. Tell your spouse you would marry him/her all over again.
  19. Surprise your spouse with an unexpected gift.
  20. When your spouse is telling you about something put your phone down and look at him/her in the eyes as they speak. Listen intentionally.

What can we add to this list?

Do you have other ideas of what your spouse could do to really bless you?  Comment below and let me know. I’d love to increase this list and add your ideas as well! There are so many ways we can serve and love our spouse to improve what should be our most important relationship here on earth. It’s the litte things that matter. It’s the little things that add up for major rewards.


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  1. Ashley on December 7, 2018 at 8:11 am

    It’s so true that this is the most important relationship and it’s so easy to forget once children come along. Thanks for the ideas!

  2. Mamie on November 19, 2018 at 12:37 pm

    We do several of these things to keep our marriage refreshed. Date nights are always fun.

  3. Heidi on November 18, 2018 at 2:14 pm

    This is exactly how my mom raised me. I grew up watching my parents continually put each other first and build a marriage on a foundation of respect and selflessness. It’s the reason my marriage is still intact today – after 10 years together. Amazing post. Thank you so much for sharing.

  4. Dana on November 17, 2018 at 9:52 pm

    I love all of these ideas! We love traveling alll over so that one is my go to!

  5. Jessica L. on November 17, 2018 at 9:21 am

    It can get a little tricky when you have kids but that doesn’t mean we should stop trying and these are great ideas!

  6. Latha on November 16, 2018 at 11:15 pm

    I need to start focusing more on us time…

  7. tren on November 16, 2018 at 3:22 pm

    Reading through your blogs, I love that your focus on traits far beyond monetary items. many people are so quick to “buy”, which is fine bc everyone has their personal love language. But i like to teach my children, that we can make someone smile by being kind and doing kind and loving gestures.

    • Jackie on November 17, 2018 at 8:01 pm

      Thank you Tren!! I really appreciate that feedback and you are so right….we can’t buy our children their future.

  8. Riana Ang-Canning on November 15, 2018 at 11:40 am

    Such sweet ideas! I love sending a random text or message during the day to just tell my partner how much I love him. And I really enjoy leaving little love notes around the house!


  9. Charlotte Jessop on November 4, 2018 at 1:51 pm

    Some lovely ideas there! We have busy lives with us both working and two small children. It is nice to take those quiet moments to appreciate each other.

    • Jackie on November 4, 2018 at 3:44 pm

      It really is and it doesn’t take as much time as we might think!

  10. Sharvina on November 4, 2018 at 1:43 am

    Thanks for the tips! I’ll add trying a new recipe together, camping under the stars and learning a new hobby together.

    • Jackie on November 4, 2018 at 5:58 am

      Oh I love those!!! Thank you!

  11. Lauren on November 3, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    I love all these! My hubby and I just had a great date night! We need to do it more often and do more things to show our appreciation.

    • Jackie on November 4, 2018 at 5:58 am

      Isn’t that so true. Once we get that date night in we know how much it blessed us, but its so hard to make it happen as often as we should.

  12. Janice on November 3, 2018 at 6:40 am

    Love the saying Love is an act not an feeling

    • Jackie on November 3, 2018 at 7:00 am

      Me too! It’s such a great reminder.

  13. Brenna Henry on November 3, 2018 at 6:25 am

    This is the first post I’ve seen like this and it’s pretty important. I liked reading what you had to say. Thank you

    • Jackie on November 3, 2018 at 6:59 am

      It really is so very important and we forget, especially as moms!

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