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20 Ways To Bless Your Spouse

Do you need to reignite the spark in your marriage? Here are 20 ways you can simply and effectively bring back the love you once had.

20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriageHave you been married for just a few months, a few years or alot of years??

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married, the key to a strong marriage is being intentional towards each other in our marriages to notice each other and connect on a regular basis.

Your marriage is the most important relationship you have here on earth with a human being. Your relationship with your spouse should be more important to you than any other relationship you have….even more important than the relationship with your children!!

 

 

Love Your Spouse to Bless Your Children

You see, loving your spouse and working on the relationship to make it solid, loving and unconditional will in turn bless the relationship you have with your children and will give your children a stronger sense of security and love in their own lives.

I encourage you to make the relationship with your husband or wife the focus of your everyday life. Everyday won’t be great. I can guarantee that. But we can add in little moments of blessings for each other to reconnect and maintain a love that will never be broken.

20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage

Love is an Act not a Feeling

You can not like your spouse some days. That’s just a part of life. We need to understand that not liking our spouse doesn’t mean we don’t love them. We just don’t like something they did or said, but we still LOVE them no matter what. Love isn’t a feeling. It was in the beginning of your relationship, but over time love becomes more of an act than a feeling and that’s what keeps a marriage strong.

20 ways to help you bless your spouse, how to bless your spouse and improve your marriage

Here are 20 ways you can Bless Your Spouse.

Plan to do one a week or at least one a month.

Be consistent with the intention to bless your spouse with the comfort and knowledge of knowing how much you love them through these acts of love.

 

  1. Research a subject or hobby your spouse enjoys and talk with him/her about it showing interest.
  2. Find an old photo of you together and reminisce with your spouse. Tell your spouse how you love him/her even more today.
  3. Make your spouse breakfast in bed.
  4. Leave a love note in dry erase marker on the bathroom mirror.
  5. Hide notes around the house where you know your spouse might randomly discover them.
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  6. Ask your spouse to make a list of 3-5 things he/she would like you to do and intentional do those things.
  7. Write a love letter to your spouse and snail mail it to them.
  8. Plan a day hike together and have a picnic lunch together.
  9. Leave post it notes with characteristics you love about your spouse around the house.
  10. Send a random text telling your spouse how much you love them.
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  11. Make your spouse’s favorite meal and serve it in a special way.
  12. Draw a bubble bath for your spouse and make his/her favorite tea or coffee to have with it.
  13. Hug your spouse and tell him/her how much you appreciate them.
  14. Date night idea – Take a class together.
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  15. Plan a vacation together.
  16. Date night idea – put the kids to bed early, make popcorn, and watch a movie together.
  17. Pray together thanking God for your spouse and name one specific thing you are thankful for.
  18. Tell your spouse you would marry him/her all over again.
  19. Surprise your spouse with an unexpected gift.
  20. When your spouse is telling you about something put your phone down and look at him/her in the eyes as they speak. Listen intentionally.

What can we add to this list?

Do you have other ideas of what your spouse could do to really bless you?  Comment below and let me know. I’d love to increase this list and add your ideas as well! There are so many ways we can serve and love our spouse to improve what should be our most important relationship here on earth. It’s the litte things that matter. It’s the little things that add up for major rewards.

 

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70 Comments

  1. T.M. Brown on February 14, 2019 at 3:04 pm

    Oh, these ideas are adorable! Love them and plan to keep this in my little index box of ideas. Thank you for sharing. You’re right, though ~ sometimes we have days where we just don’t like each other (we are a 22.5 years now of marriage)…but love is an act and it takes commitment.

  2. Nicki on February 14, 2019 at 8:21 am

    I love these ideas! I’m bringing home a dry erase marker!

  3. Enriqueta E Lemoine on February 13, 2019 at 5:30 am

    Great, great post! I’m pretty sure divorce rate will dramatically drop if people would honor and love their spouses more!

  4. Susan Franklin on February 12, 2019 at 9:27 pm

    I love your list – we also are very passionate about building strong marriages. We’re in the last days of hosting a love challenge – it’s been fun. My husband loves to go Star Gazing…. I find that romantic!

  5. Amanda on February 12, 2019 at 9:55 am

    This is a great list! Luckily my husband and I love to do most of the same things so it’s easy to find something to do together that we both love. But I do need to tell him how much I appreciate him more.

  6. Kathryn at QuestFor47 on February 11, 2019 at 7:36 pm

    Great tips! This is definitely the time of year to let your spouse or partner know how much you love them!

  7. Jennifer Morrison on February 11, 2019 at 9:07 am

    These are great ideas! I love seeing it when couples choose to get involved and truly understand the other’s hobbies.

  8. bestiesnotepad on February 11, 2019 at 6:58 am

    This is a great list. I can really use these tips. Thanks for the great post.

  9. Pauline on February 11, 2019 at 6:42 am

    I already do alot of these. Two things I also do is I cook his meals for him to take to work when he’s out of town and buy him new t-shirts and socks when I notice his other ones are getting shabby.

  10. Bindu Thomas on February 11, 2019 at 4:16 am

    These are such great ideas! Love the saying Love is an act not an feeling

  11. Latte Lindsay on February 11, 2019 at 1:46 am

    What a cute list! It can be tough to show the love when you have work and kids and general life drama but the little things like this can help keep a relationship solid.

  12. Gladys Nava on February 11, 2019 at 12:55 am

    Wow! I really love these! Thanks for letting us know all about these wonderful tips! I love it ♥

  13. Swathi on February 10, 2019 at 9:13 pm

    Great ideas, We have been married to 15 years this September. Love is the binding and look upto each other.

  14. Melissa Guida-Richards on February 10, 2019 at 7:46 pm

    I love the idea of making an actual list of what we would like from our spouse. My husband and I have been together for almost eight years and we sometimes can forget to put each other first especially with having toddlers.

  15. Devyani on February 10, 2019 at 6:22 pm

    Love for sure is act!!! And actions speak louder tha. Words

  16. Kirsten on February 10, 2019 at 2:11 pm

    Great Tips! I love to surprise my husband with special dinners.

  17. mjmamaa on February 10, 2019 at 7:21 am

    this is great! my husband and i are going into our 2nd year and this a great way to keep things fresh and fun.

  18. Dominique Brooks on February 9, 2019 at 4:56 pm

    This is a great list. Some of them my husband and I do but there are some suggestions that I hadn’t thought about doing with intention. Thanks for the reminder!

  19. Jess on February 9, 2019 at 2:42 pm

    It is so important to focus on your relationship. I teach so often that it is important to focus on the relationship especially when you have children!

  20. Lindsey on February 9, 2019 at 12:50 pm

    Great ideas for those who are married and even just dating! I love idea of taking a class together!

  21. Joanna on February 9, 2019 at 10:34 am

    I think it’s very important for both partners to make nice things for each other and keep the love flame alive. Simple things, like breakfast in bed or bubble baths make such a big difference in a relationship.

  22. Heather on February 9, 2019 at 10:23 am

    I think there are definitely things on this list I can improve on, but I guess the word that’s throwing me is “bless your spouse”. When I think bless, I think of prayer.

  23. Katie Mitchell on February 9, 2019 at 9:38 am

    I’m not married yet (will be in September!) but my fiance and I definitely practice some of these. We love date nights and getting surprises from the store. Even if it is just a candy bar or soda!

  24. Sandi on February 9, 2019 at 6:13 am

    Great ideas. Being intentional and authentic is important to a relationship, for sure.

  25. Hollie on February 9, 2019 at 5:12 am

    I think it’s so important to make your spouse feel loved and welcome. Love is definitely not just one moment, it’s life long.

  26. Dalene Ekirapa on February 8, 2019 at 11:04 pm

    Aaaw…such beautiful ways to share the love. Well, love letters can be so cute and I wish couples could be doing them them..and yeah, praying together can be so great!

  27. Dee on February 8, 2019 at 8:20 pm

    Great ideas and it is important to show how much you appreciate your partner!

  28. Kayella on February 8, 2019 at 8:18 pm

    It’s crazy how we get complacent as time goes on, and we don’t even realize it! I think it’s so important to show your spouse how much you love them because it important they know it the same as you do ❤️ Great post!

  29. Kim on February 8, 2019 at 7:54 pm

    What a great renminder that it is really the little things!

  30. Kelsey on February 8, 2019 at 7:38 pm

    I don’t have a spouse but I think this has a lot of great information for other relationships as well. It requires work on both sides, not just feelings. I totally agree!

  31. Laura on February 8, 2019 at 5:37 pm

    How sweet! Great post! Thanks for sharing this!

  32. Cindy on February 8, 2019 at 5:02 pm

    Lovely list of actions that are easy to do. Thanks for sharing!

  33. Angela Greven on February 8, 2019 at 1:21 pm

    So important and such a great list of ways to be engaged in loving your spouse! We’re very involved in each other interests and hobbies so there is never a shortage of conversation 🙂 Thank you for sharing!

  34. Sarah Bailey on February 8, 2019 at 11:56 am

    Now these are some really lovely ideas for ways to treat your partner. I think sometimes you need to do something little just keep that flame burning brightly for you both.

  35. Joan on February 8, 2019 at 11:06 am

    These are super nice, always good to keep a marriage active and exciting and these ideas are truly worth it.

  36. Tara Pittman on February 8, 2019 at 11:06 am

    Now that the kids are getting older, it is time for us. My husband and I need to spend more time together.

  37. Blanca on February 8, 2019 at 10:50 am

    I’ve been with my partner for 15 years. Tonight, we’re doing date night…all by ourselves. It’s been a while, but we decided it would be a nice way to celebrate each other. Thanks so much for the other ideas. These are fabulous!!!

  38. Jessica on February 8, 2019 at 9:55 am

    Such an important reminder and ideas!

  39. Junell DuBois on February 8, 2019 at 8:30 am

    Great list. We easily get caught up in the day to day and forget to do this

  40. Lisa on February 7, 2019 at 9:17 pm

    I definitely take my husband for granted….thank you for posting this as a reminder to really enjoy him and show love to him.

  41. Nikki on February 7, 2019 at 8:11 pm

    Such cute ideas and many of them me and my husband already do. I chuckled at the one about leaving a love note on the mirror – my husband does this a lot. Since he travels he will do it and then take a pix to send to me. Just a couple of months ago we left one on our mirror at home and I didn’t notice until after I dropped him off at the airport. I left it on there until it faded off. Also we have a card – on the front it says “Here’s a kiss from me to you” and we mail it back and forth to each other with a short little love note and the date. So whenever he is someone for long enough to get mail it

  42. Leigh Ann on February 7, 2019 at 7:38 pm

    Living with intention is so important in all aspects of life.

  43. Karie on February 7, 2019 at 7:18 pm

    So true the greatest thing I felt like I could do for my kids is love their father. And set a good example for how to treat each other.

  44. Akiko on February 7, 2019 at 7:16 pm

    I love how simple these things are. Just a reminder that it’s the little things that can make a huge difference and sometimes it really is the thought that counts. Thanks for the great ideas!

  45. hollysbirdnest on February 7, 2019 at 6:30 pm

    Commitment is so important n a marriage, but the true blessing is trust… this is very hard to find today, and this also helps the children to learn more about love and relationships! Thank you for sharing your inspiring thoughts!

  46. Jenna on February 7, 2019 at 6:00 pm

    These are such great ideas! It’s so important to be reminded of do random sweet things for our spouses! We sometimes wait to eat dinner until the kids are in bed, then we can light candles and have a relaxing conversation.

    • Jackie on February 7, 2019 at 6:39 pm

      That’s such a great idea! We love to do a movie night and make homemade popcorn. The kids even know when we say its our date night then they need to go to bed and leave us be. Doesn’t always work, but they get the point. 🙂

  47. Tricia Snow on February 7, 2019 at 5:08 pm

    I agree. Love is not a feeling. For me, it is a commitment. No matter what. Feelings are fickle. Great post!

    • Jackie on February 7, 2019 at 6:40 pm

      Amen!! It really is a commitment that isn’t made just because the other is pulling their weight. We do it anyways and it pays off in the end.

  48. Anna on February 7, 2019 at 4:37 pm

    I make sometimes to my husband breakfast in bed. It is always unexpected for him and always makes his day. He truly lives it! Thanks for sharing these ideas.

    • Jackie on February 7, 2019 at 6:40 pm

      That’s a great thing to do for him!! Thank you for sharing!

  49. Ashley on December 7, 2018 at 8:11 am

    It’s so true that this is the most important relationship and it’s so easy to forget once children come along. Thanks for the ideas!

  50. Mamie on November 19, 2018 at 12:37 pm

    We do several of these things to keep our marriage refreshed. Date nights are always fun.

  51. Heidi on November 18, 2018 at 2:14 pm

    This is exactly how my mom raised me. I grew up watching my parents continually put each other first and build a marriage on a foundation of respect and selflessness. It’s the reason my marriage is still intact today – after 10 years together. Amazing post. Thank you so much for sharing.

  52. Dana on November 17, 2018 at 9:52 pm

    I love all of these ideas! We love traveling alll over so that one is my go to!

  53. Jessica L. on November 17, 2018 at 9:21 am

    It can get a little tricky when you have kids but that doesn’t mean we should stop trying and these are great ideas!

  54. Latha on November 16, 2018 at 11:15 pm

    I need to start focusing more on us time…

  55. tren on November 16, 2018 at 3:22 pm

    Reading through your blogs, I love that your focus on traits far beyond monetary items. many people are so quick to “buy”, which is fine bc everyone has their personal love language. But i like to teach my children, that we can make someone smile by being kind and doing kind and loving gestures.

    • Jackie on November 17, 2018 at 8:01 pm

      Thank you Tren!! I really appreciate that feedback and you are so right….we can’t buy our children their future.

  56. Riana Ang-Canning on November 15, 2018 at 11:40 am

    Such sweet ideas! I love sending a random text or message during the day to just tell my partner how much I love him. And I really enjoy leaving little love notes around the house!

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  57. Charlotte Jessop on November 4, 2018 at 1:51 pm

    Some lovely ideas there! We have busy lives with us both working and two small children. It is nice to take those quiet moments to appreciate each other.

    • Jackie on November 4, 2018 at 3:44 pm

      It really is and it doesn’t take as much time as we might think!

  58. Sharvina on November 4, 2018 at 1:43 am

    Thanks for the tips! I’ll add trying a new recipe together, camping under the stars and learning a new hobby together.

    • Jackie on November 4, 2018 at 5:58 am

      Oh I love those!!! Thank you!

  59. Lauren on November 3, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    I love all these! My hubby and I just had a great date night! We need to do it more often and do more things to show our appreciation.

    • Jackie on November 4, 2018 at 5:58 am

      Isn’t that so true. Once we get that date night in we know how much it blessed us, but its so hard to make it happen as often as we should.

  60. Janice on November 3, 2018 at 6:40 am

    Love the saying Love is an act not an feeling

    • Jackie on November 3, 2018 at 7:00 am

      Me too! It’s such a great reminder.

  61. Brenna Henry on November 3, 2018 at 6:25 am

    This is the first post I’ve seen like this and it’s pretty important. I liked reading what you had to say. Thank you

    • Jackie on November 3, 2018 at 6:59 am

      It really is so very important and we forget, especially as moms!

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