5 Tips For Creating a No-Stress Kid Birthday Party

plan a stress free kid birthday party

Is it possible to not stress out and get overwhelmed

with planning and paying for birthday parties for our kids?

Do you get excited about planning the next birthday party for your child? What about looking at your budget and wondering how you will pay for it? Find 5 quick, simple tricks to saving money and stress on the next birthday party for your kid. #nostressbirthdays #overwhelmedmom #momlifeoptimized #stressfree #debtfree


Yes, it is possible and here’s how you can do it!

5 Tips for creating a stress-free, low-cost birthday party for any child

  1. Keep the Guest List Small

The fewer kids there are the more quality time they get to spend together. Fewer kids also lessen the number of disagreements or fights allowing parents and kids to enjoy the event more.


You will see the added benefit of lower costs with fewer kids as well. I have written another post with 10 Money-Saving Strategies for Kid Birthday Parties. 

  1. Ditch the Venue

Again, you save money with this AND it is less stress because you don’t have to pack anything up, set up in a different location, pay attention to time, and make sure you are cleaned up and paid up.


Having the party at home is more like planning a playdate, but maybe with a few other fun activities and decorations. It’s also easier if a parent is dropping their child off and is late to pick up, you don’t have to wait around at a venue or outside that venue after your party’s time slot has ended.


If you don’t have space at your house plan the party at a local park. Some parks may charge a small fee for using their pavilion or other space, but you have built in entertainment and you don’t have to bring much with you. Having the party at a park can be a much more relaxed environment depending on how you feel about opening your home to others.


  1. Go Cheap on Decorations and SKIP the Goodie Bag

The Dollar Store is a great option for decorations, cake supplies, and other party supplies. Yes, the quality is cheaper, but you only need them for a few hours and then you usually throw it all away. You will save tons of money and stress by utilizing a cheaper store like the Dollar Store.

Skip the goodie bag.

Seriously, I have never met a mom that was disappointed if their child left a party without the goodie bag full of items that don’t work once they are touched or are already broken and just end up on the floor of the car on the way home from the party. The kids like them for a few minutes, but you can save lots of money and time by skipping the goodie bag. Here are a few other ideas you could do instead of the traditional birthday party goodie bag:

  • Buy a small plant at a local nursery and give out as a party gift.
  • Get a small pot with dirt and let the kids plant a seed to take home to watch grow.
  • If you are a crafty mom have the kids make soap, a candle, cookie in a jar, some other craft that they can take home.
  • Give the kids a small bag of Legos and have them make a creation they can take home.
  • Take a picture of all the kids together at the beginning of the party, send it to a one-hour photo place and send your husband or another parent to pick up the picture. The kids can then decorate a frame or you can have frames (again….Dollar Store!) ready. The kids will go home with a framed picture and memory of the party. Experiences last longer than material things.
  • Search Pinterest…it’s a never-ending smorgasbord of ideas.


  1. Simplify the Party Plan

You don’t have to have the party planned down to the minute. This was SO me!!


The first few years for my kids (who are 2 years apart and have birthdays 9 days apart) I had the bouncy castle, the Build-a-Bear kits, professionally made cakes, a balloon twisting guy, goodie bags, games planned and scheduled, and more!


My kids’ birthdays were quite memorable for all the guests but heavy on the budget for us.


Those kinds of parties are fun, but you have to be careful about what you start with. If you start big you will feel obligated to stay there or go bigger each year. It’s been hard for us to slowly scale back, but our budget has forced us to and there has been such a blessing in that.

A kid’s birthday party doesn’t have to have a ton going on. Again, remember, our focus should be on the quality time spent with each other.

Enjoy each other more than you enjoy the “things”.


You can still plan a fun activity and here are a few great ideas I’ve seen over the years:


  • Perler Beads– Super cheap and easy. The kids make designs and a parent will iron the designs, the plastic will melt and they are able to take it home with them. The kids will be entertained with this for a while.

  • Lego Creations– Most likely you have tons of Legos around the house. Put some in a bin and set a timer. Give the kids 4 minutes (or longer) to build the coolest robot, dinosaur, or whatever you want. When the time is up each child can explain to the group what they built and why. You can also make this a competition if you’d like.
  • Magna-Tiles Creations– Similar to the Legos and if you don’t have these yet you will not regret buying them. These would be super fun for the party, but also great to have around the house for kids to play with later and for years to come. These are more expensive than the Legos, but a great learning toy to have. The kids can go individually or in a group and build the tallest tower, the coolest animal or the prettiest flower. The possibilities are endless.



  1. No-Stress Cake/Cupcakes/Cookies

Have you spent $75 on your kid’s birthday cake before? I hate to admit it, but I have! He was 4!

Moms, let me speak frankly to you…..Your kid doesn’t care! It was a nice cake. It was delicious and it looked amazing, but your child will not care if you have a $75 professionally decorated with famous characters cake or a cake you made at home that isn’t even decorated yet. Because………. This is genius…..wait for it……. Let the kids decorate it!


You can do a cake and ice it and then let the kids put sprinkles on it.


You can make large sugar cookies and have different toppings and the colored icing on the table and let them decorate their own cookie.


Cupcakes are a great idea for letting the kids decorate too. Split them up and let them decorate a few any way they would like. You will be surprised how much of a memory this experience leaves them and you just spent less than $10 on the cake and decorating supplies.


So Moms, make your next birthday party a No-Stress party for you and your kids. Enjoy it with your child and save the money too!

Stress Free Birthday Party










Check out two of my other blogs posts, Throw a ‘No Gifts’ Birthday Party and 10 Ways to Save Money with Kids’ Birthday Parties.


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  1. Mommy Sigrid on October 25, 2018 at 2:48 am

    I also DIY our kids’ parties. But I don’t want to be stressed so I always try to keep it simple. But my nerves can still get frazzled. I can only imagine those moms who get into so much detail. I will have hypertension from stress haha

  2. swathi on October 19, 2018 at 10:00 pm

    Great ideas, yes it is really stressful to celebrate kids birthday. when planning everything from cooking to decoration. I will keep in mind these tips.

  3. Jennifer L on October 19, 2018 at 4:40 pm

    REally fantastic tips to help have a fun party but not feel way overwhelmed. I have friends who have started to host their parties in parks because its easy to just have disposable table ware, have games set, less risk of home damage and easier cleanup.

  4. rain on October 19, 2018 at 2:19 pm

    inviting less people is definitely a number one suggestion. I learned the hardway through the years thinking more is better but, it’s really not. It’s overwhelming for us parents and most times it’s overwhelming for the kids too.

  5. Easter Babe on October 19, 2018 at 3:16 am

    Thanks for sharing these tips. It’s always worrisome when trying to prepare for parties.

  6. Silvia on October 18, 2018 at 9:54 pm

    Great ideas, I refuse to let a birthday party stress me out! We usually do it at home with just a few friends. Both my kids and I are happier.

  7. lexi on October 18, 2018 at 8:49 pm

    a stress free kids birthday is def what im going to need in the future! thanks for sharing!

  8. Rupal on October 18, 2018 at 1:04 pm

    Thanks for these tips. My little ones birthday is on Halloween and I am totally going crazy.

  9. Brittany on October 17, 2018 at 8:53 pm

    A stree-free kids birthday party!? That’s possible!?!? Haha love these tips! Thanks for sharing!!

  10. Shannon on October 17, 2018 at 5:40 pm

    I never thought about kids not caring about the cake LOL so true! As long as it tastes good! These tips are great

  11. Marysa on October 17, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    These are all good ideas. I always thought it was easier to have a party somewhere – your house doesn’t get messy, no clean up, you don’t have to organize the food, etc — plus the guests leave when they are supposed to. But I can see your point too in keeping it small and manageable at home.

  12. Amber Myers on October 17, 2018 at 10:38 am

    These are some great tips! I generally have parties outside the home so I don’t even have to clean up. If we do have parties at home, they are super small.

  13. Jessi Joachim on October 17, 2018 at 6:46 am

    I just had my son’s bday the other day and I have to say, having it at home with no goodie bags and such is so much easier. He is on;y 2, so we didn’t do anything fancy for him and just enjoyed the time.

    • Jackie on October 17, 2018 at 6:47 am

      Good for you! I think we feel we should do so much more than we actually need to do.

  14. London Mumma on October 17, 2018 at 6:27 am

    This is really good, espceially as in a few weeks I have to start planningm y daughters 5th BIrthday

    • Jackie on October 17, 2018 at 6:47 am

      Definitely use some of these tips! I hope it saves you tons of time, money and stress!

  15. kumamonjeng on October 17, 2018 at 4:00 am

    I like the idea of having the party at home, that way parents can save quite a lot too.

  16. Cris on October 17, 2018 at 3:22 am

    Having a birthday party can be indeed stressfull! You have some amazing tips here!

  17. Joan Cajic on October 17, 2018 at 1:19 am

    This is why I ignore parties but I don’t think I can anymore since my son is pretty sure that he does want a party next time. I will be keeping this for referral.

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