Why You Need A Mom Tribe ~ Finding the Perfect Mom Friends

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What is a Mom Tribe?

Mom Tribe is a group of very close mom friends.  But you probably already knew that.

Why do I need a Mom Tribe?

Whether you are an introvert, an extrovert, a SAHM, a working mom, a young mom or an older mom…..you NEED a Mom Tribe. Your husband doesn’t get you like your Mom Tribe gets you.  It is essential to our survival as a mom and a wife to have a Mom Tribe.

Husbands just won’t cut it, you need mom friends!

Our husbands don’t want to hear about our menstrual cycles, our moods and cramping, (although they have to deal with it), our hair falling out, everything that went on with the kids that day unless it’s happy and everything went perfectly (good luck with that!), or what so-and-so said about s0-and-so because he really doesn’t know who so-and-so is.

They don’t want to always hear about the 15,000 ideas and thoughts that ran through our head today.


Our husbands are amazing men. But, let’s be honest ladies, do you listen to everything your husband tells you about his day? What about the news story he was just reading and wants to tell you about it while you are cooking and trying to keep the toddler away from the hot stove while your preschooler is on the potty and needs to be wiped?


There are just some things better left to discuss with our Mom Tribe and better things left to be discussed with our husbands.

Mom Friends Make the Perfect Mom Tribe

Your Mom Tribe is your perfect mom group of other busy, overwhelmed, hard-working, well-intentioned moms that just get you! They know when to listen and know when to fix. It’s just something innate about your group of mom friends that developed into your Mom Tribe.


If you haven’t yet found your Mom Tribe then your mission starts now to find the perfect group of mom friends that become your Mom Tribe. To help you I’ve written a few other articles to help you find your Mom Tribe or start a Mom Tribe.


Read my Essential Guide to Finding Your Perfect Mom Tribe or read 6 Insanely Easy Steps to Starting A Mom Tribe .


Mom Friends That “Get You”!

Mom tribe, mom friends, mom group, finding your tribeYour Mom Tribe is that group of mom friends that just “get you.”

They forgive you when you say too much while venting. They don’t hold anything against you and secrets are safe with them.


They encourage you and are REAL with you. That means when you need to hear something maybe you don’t want to hear they love you enough to show tough love and save you from yourself. They are there for you at 5:30am, 2pm or 11pm by phone, text or whatever another social media venue you are on together.


For introverts, finding a Mom Tribe is difficult because you don’t open up comfortably when you don’t know a person well. For extroverts, finding that perfect Mom Tribe is difficult because you can sometimes come across “too friendly” or “overwhelming”. Extroverts might say too much too soon and introverts come across as snotty or weak because they don’t say much at all.

Finding Mom Friends as an Introvert

If you are an introvert, you are not very comfortable opening up to someone you don’t know. You don’t just walk up to anyone and introduce yourself. So in order to get out there and meet other moms, you will have to step outside your comfort zone and make a concerted effort to meet some mom friends if you really want to find your Mom Tribe.

Finding Mom Friends as an Extrovert

If you are an extrovert you walk in a room and are ready to introduce yourself and ask all kinds of questions of every mom you meet. You thrive in group settings. This is a great characteristic to have when trying to meet new mom friends. You just have to be careful and aware of the other mom you are talking to. Pay attention to her social cues. Don’t back-off right away if she isn’t responding much or seems stand-offish. 

Ask a few general and open-ended questions to help her feel a little more comfortable with you and make sure you don’t share too much, too quickly. Build this relationship slowly. Introverts and extroverts can gain so much from each other within a Mom Tribe!


You can download a FREE PDF with 15 Conversation Starters to use when meeting new mom friends.

conversation starters to use when starting a new mom friend group or mom tribe


It’s hard to know how to “meet” that mom that you hope might be a part of your Mom Tribe for the long haul. It’s almost like dating all over again.

You say Hi.

You ask a few questions, almost as if interviewing them, but knowing you are kind of being interviewed too.


Be Real. Be  Genuine. Be You.

Adult friendships can be difficult to find especially when you are looking for mom friends with kids of similar ages and interests. Then compound that with today’s culture that is less likely to be physically present and more likely to be digitally present. You go to a park and you see moms sitting around scrolling through their phones more than watching their kids or looking around to meet other moms.

You have to be the change you want to see happen. Find a way to go over there and talk with those moms. Sometimes they just need a little push to have someone talk to them.


Start with a Compliment

One of the best ways to begin a conversation is to compliment a mom on the way her child was acting, on her hair, her clothing, anything about her or her kids. As moms, we need compliments! We are bombarded every day with how many things we are doing wrong and how many things we should do differently. Let’s encourage and support each other in what we are getting right.

We are getting more right than we think we are every day.

To find that perfect group of women that love you, heart and soul, and just “get you“, is absolutely priceless and will save your life!!

It is worth every acceptance and denial you might receive when trying to find your Mom Tribe. Just keep being you and before you know it you will have the core group of mom friends that you call your Tribe! They will stand by you forever!


Other blog topics that might interest you:


Essential Guide to Finding Your Perfect Mom Tribe

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6 Insanely Easy Steps to Starting Your Own Mom Tribe

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20 Fun and Inspiring Mom Tribe Playdate Ideas

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  1. Becca Wilson on September 3, 2018 at 10:45 am

    Finding moms that “get you” is so important for your sanity. These are those moms that will not judge you and will laugh with you along the way. They are also there for some amazing advice when you really need it!

  2. Kristie Cirak on September 2, 2018 at 6:30 pm

    Agreed! Its the best thing to have people around you that are going through simular things. There are just some things that ‘non mums’ just do not understand!.

  3. Chantal on September 2, 2018 at 4:54 pm

    This was great. Being a young mom, most of my friends don’t have children yet. I’ve befriended a few mom bloggers to help balance it out lol. It’s great to have people who understand mom struggles

  4. Kitty on September 2, 2018 at 5:56 am

    Sooo true we need those mom tribe to get Updated with things and getting support from each other’s… we just moved to a new place I hope I find a good tribe of moms to keep in touch with 😊

    • Jackie on September 2, 2018 at 6:20 am

      I hope you are able to find one too! Hopefully some of these tips can help you do that. 🙂

  5. Ashley on September 1, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    This is a great booster for so many moms! I’m not a mom but I work with many of them who feel very alone in their new world bc their friends are at all different stages of life still. Thank you for writing this. I’m going to refer this to many people.

  6. Tara on August 30, 2018 at 3:03 pm

    I like to think this applies to none mums as well. We all need our tribe whoever we are.

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 30, 2018 at 7:45 pm

      Yes, that is very true! Everyone needs a tribe!

  7. Tiffani on August 29, 2018 at 8:42 am

    This is awesome!! I need to meet my mom tribe!! Transitioning from a working mom to SAHM has its challenges when meeting new ladies!!

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 11:56 am

      I did this same thing 5 years ago. I transitioned form a working mom to a SAHM while also moving to a new state. The SAHM and working mom are not the same and it takes some time to adjust for sure. 🙂

  8. Natalie on August 29, 2018 at 8:18 am

    I don’t have a mom tribe. I’m truly an introvert and since I don’t go out much it’s difficult but I’ll try some of these tips!

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 11:58 am

      My hope is that this article gets around to others especially all the extroverts to help introverts feel a little more comfortable. You still have to put yourself out there, go to a park or the local library, but hopefully the extroverted mom will come up to you. Make an effort to make eye contact, that was the hardest thing for me in the morning. It was like I was letting a stranger into my soul if I made eye contact. You can do this! Mostly because you NEED to do this!

  9. Erin McCarthy on August 29, 2018 at 8:13 am

    As a military spouse this is necessary in so many ways! Great read.

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 8:18 am

      I agree wholeheartedly! It’s the only thing that helps you through long TDYs and deployments. We become highly resilient women!

  10. dana on August 29, 2018 at 7:58 am

    It’s so hard for me to put myself out there! I can do small talk but beyond that, I am so bad at texting and keeping up with friends! Thanks for the tips <3

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 8:19 am

      I am so so with you on that!!

  11. Britney on August 29, 2018 at 7:55 am

    I agree mom tribes are very necessary! You need people to relate with and who understand

  12. KatWalkSF on August 29, 2018 at 5:26 am

    This is so freaking true! We all need a support system!

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 8:20 am

      And when you have a good one you really know it! I hope every woman is encouraged to find their Mom Tribe and if they have one let them know how important each one is to them.

  13. Sarah Fatima on August 29, 2018 at 4:40 am

    Really interesting topic to talk. Mom tribe is essential and you say right that sometimes your husband and kids can’t understand you but mom tribe can, always. Thanks for sharing.

  14. Joanna on August 29, 2018 at 4:31 am

    This was an interesting read. I am not a mother so I don’t really know what a mom tribe is, but it does make sense to have friends who go through similar struggles as you. They will understand so much better.

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 8:21 am

      Very true! My blog niche is speaking to moms, but this can hold true for anyone. Men, women, moms, dads, anyone. It’s basically finding your specific niche of a support group.

  15. kylie cre8tone on August 28, 2018 at 11:51 pm

    every mummy struggling for that.. well…. gonna get the one in the same boat to understand.. isn’t it?

  16. Adriana Lopez on August 28, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    I definitely think we need a mom tribe, or a female circle of friends that shares our same values and interests. Girl time is important to reconnect and to make community. If we help each other we can achieve anything.

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 29, 2018 at 8:21 am


  17. Val on August 28, 2018 at 7:00 pm

    Great topic – this is something I struggle with!

  18. Anitra on August 28, 2018 at 4:48 pm

    Having people around you that “get” you and understand what you’re going through is so important!!

  19. Jessica Joachim on August 28, 2018 at 3:37 pm

    We all need our mom tribe for sure! I got lucky and a lot of people I was friends with before, ended up pregnant around the same time as me!

  20. Scott Gombar on August 28, 2018 at 1:45 pm

    My wife struggles with this. Most of her friends live thousands of miles away and she does not have a lot of time to make new friends.

  21. Nicole G on August 28, 2018 at 1:38 pm

    A mom tribe is a necessity for survival! Especially if you’re a stay at home mom. I can’t even imagine going through my husband’s deployments or long training exercises without my best girlfriends to lean on!

    • Jackie Follmuth on August 28, 2018 at 2:23 pm

      I hear ya! And as a military wife you have to find a whole new tribe every time you move. I am thankful for my current tribe and am so glad other women know they need this to surely survive.

  22. Arnab Majumdar on August 28, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    I wouldnt know much about it, but surely moms would understand it. will forward it to my mom.

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